Why Intelligent People Don’t Have Friends

Have you ever wondered why some people have more friends than others? It’s undeniable that certain people have a larger social circle and some are always labeled “the loners”. Well, science has proven that people with a higher IQ tend to have fewer friends.

What do we mean when we’re talking about “intelligent people?”

A highly intelligent person is one who is flexible in their thinking and can adapt to changes, they think before they speak or act, and they’re able to effectively manage their emotions. An average IQ score is between 85 and 115. Intelligent people are defined as those having an IQ between 116 and 144. An IQ score of 160+ defines you as a genius! 🧠

Intelligent people tend to have less friends than the average person. The smarter you are, the more selective you become.

Nikola Tesla

Intelligence and Loneliness

Just because someone likes to be alone doesn’t mean they’re lonely. The more intelligent you are, the less satisfied you are with life if you socialize with friends more frequently.

When pursuing a long-term objective, the smarter individual would rather stay home and work towards their dreams and ambitions, rather than going out on a Saturday evening with a few friends. 🥂

It’s not that they don’t value friendship; they do. But, when they are on the prowl of achieving greatness, they may deem socialization as distractions.

Smart people value relationships in a different way

Intelligent people value friendships and relationships just like anyone else, but they tend to be more selective with how they spend their time. It isn’t that they don’t cherish friendships and frequent socialization occurrences, but they also cherish their personal pursuits.🤓

They don’t have time for forced fake catch-ups or pointless conversations, trying to keep up with what everyone is up to. So, they mostly spend time alone. They don’t have FOMO (fear of missing out); on the contrary, they’re quite content with doing their own thing.

Intelligent people like to observe the world

Intelligent people usually talk less and listen more and they find themselves sitting back observing the norms of today: the constant posting on social media, backstabbing, disloyal partners and disrespectful behaviour. It puts them off because they’re far more mature. They see more to life. They believe in radiating the energy they want to be around. 🌟

No time for drama!

People with higher than average IQ tend to not get involved in drama. They don’t thrive off it like others do. Family is more important to them. They would rather watch an episode with their sister than go to a bar with the girls. The unnecessary drama that comes with a night out is exactly what they avoid. They prefer doing things according to their own terms. 💪🏽

Intelligent people are usually “old souls”

They’re old souls and have visions for the future. They feel uncomfortable telling their dreams to small minded people. They work hard to achieve their goals and they don’t have time for setbacks. While others are trying to plan their night out at the club, smart people are grinding. They see more than just going to a club, they see a life they want to chase. Their focus is different. 😎

Be careful who you call your friends, I’d rather have four quarters than one hundred pennies.

Al Capone

They approach new friendships with caution

In our brain, there are some Neurons called mirror neurons. These are responsible for imprinting on us the behaviours we come into frequent contact with. Most intelligent people seem to have figured this out; that they walk with the dumb and become dumb. They do not mingle with people who could lessen their intelligence. Intelligent people are picky about the people they surround themselves with.


What do YOU think? Do you agree that intelligent people don’t really need friends? Do you know people like this or are YOU one of these intelligent people?

Personally, I feel I can relate. I have a very small circle of friends, and the reasons above is why.

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